The job of a mom is 24/7. And once you become a mom, this will always be true.
I have found over the years that there are times in my life when I let “stuff” get in the way.
Before I know it, I am way too busy, overwhelmed, and quite honestly, grouchy.
This “stuff” is all those extra things I try to fit into my day that just does not quite add up to following my priorities.
As a Christian wife, mom, and homeschooler, I desperately need my day to line up with my priorities.
If not, I will go to bed feeling defeated by all I did not accomplish.
As a perfectionist, I always want to finish more, make more happen, start new things, finish projects. However, there are only so many hours in a day.
When I started to line up my priorities with my routine, I felt an overwhelming peace and joy in my home. And I know it can be yours as well!
Start With Priorities
It seems simple, but it is important to take the time to lay out your priorities in order.
As a Christian, my priorities are simple:
- Relationship with Jesus
- Homeschool/ Managing the Home
- Blog/ Hobbies
STEP 1: Write down your priorities in order. This starting place will help you to plan a routine that lines up with your priorities, as well as provide you with a map for future decisions.
Block Off the Necessities
The necessities are things that must be done every day and are important for our health and well-being.
Necessities in my life are sleep, preparing meals, eating, exercising, and housework.
These 5 things have to be done every day in order to stay healthy, feed my children, and provide a clean home for my family.
Once I know the necessities, it is time to start time blocking my routine.
First, determine how much sleep you would like to get each night.
Second, decide how much time you need to allow for meals and meal prepping.
Finally, give yourself at least a two-hour buffer each day for bible reading, exercise, and housework. Possibly more time if you exercise outside of the home.
STEP 2: Write down your necessities. Determine how much time you need for each activity.
Now that you know your necessities, work backward.
For example, I would like to get 7 hours of sleep a night.
Therefore, my goal is to go to bed at 10 p.m. so I can get up at 5 a.m.
But I also want to allow a buffer in that routine in case I am out with my husband one night or we have a family movie night.
In that case, I also allow for an 11 p.m. bedtime and 6 a.m. wake-up time for those particular special times.
Now place your meal times into the time block. When you have young children, meal times take a little bit longer as you are in charge of all the prep, feeding, and cleaning up after the meal.
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Finally, block off time for exercise, bible reading, and housework.
At this point, my schedule looks like this.
I like to color code each block so I can make sure it looks balanced. The turquoise is time spent together with the kids. The purple is necessities, and the dark blue is sleep.
Step 3: Work backward by plugging in your necessities.
Time Block Your Priorities
Now it is time to look at that list of priorities from the beginning.
First priority is a relationship with Jesus. I have a place blocked off for Bible time with the kids, as well as time spent reading my own Bible. While there are many aspects to a strong relationship with Jesus, I know that setting aside this time is critical for my faith.
Second priority is my marriage. Dustin and I try to have a weekly date night, but I also enjoy setting in daily time for just the two of us.
In my schedule, I want to be sure that we are ending our day together so I have blocked off time for just the two of us. Notice that if I stay up later, then I am getting up later.
Third priority is my children. Since we are a homeschooling family, a big bulk of our character training is in our homeschool day. I know that we need about 4 hours a day to complete our school work. It is also great to have family time built into the routine for play and fun.
My fourth priority is my home. This is also a necessity. Staying on top of the housework and the chores requires me to be diligent and make time for housework.
My last priority is my blog and hobbies. Right now, I spend the early morning hours working on those tasks, as well as our break time during our school day.
Here is the schedule now:
Step 4: Add your big life priorities to the schedule.
Interruptions and Activities
I am sure you are thinking: what about things that come up during the day? Or kids daily activities?
There will always be interruptions to a daily routine, and it is so important to stay flexible.
When kids activities pop up, I make a note of what on the schedule gets bumped. If it is meal prep, then I may need to plan a slow cooker meal for that particular day.
If it is homemaking, then I will need to fit in a few chores at the end of family time.
When you have a routine, it is much easier to make choices because you can see what you should be doing and decide if you can move that delegation to another time frame.
Step 5: Be flexible. You will not follow this routine exactly. It is more of a framework and helps you make wiser decisions.
Once I started using a daily routine, I found so much more joy and peace in my day.
I finally felt like I was accomplishing goals during the week, and better than that, they were based on my big life priorities.
Stop wasting time spinning your wheels.
Sit down and create a daily routine that will make your life priorities an actual priority!