A mom’s job is never done.
Whether you are a working mom, a stay at home mom, or a stay at home working mom, we all juggle to keep everything balanced.
Personally, there have been times in my life when I dreaded the next day.
The to-do list was too long, and I did not have the energy to go at neck-breaking speed once again.
I started to snap at my husband and the kids because I was stressed. I would constantly be thinking of all I needed to do.
Well, a stressed-out busy mama is not good for anyone.
But moms have things that need to get done.
Let’s start at the beginning and see how we can get our best work done as a busy mom.
Confessing my sin was the first step.
Now being busy in general is not a sin.
But constantly promoting my own agenda and missing out on opportunities God placed in front me —- this is the sin I needed to repent.
If you find that you are stressed out and way too busy, spend some time in prayer. Ask God for peace and understanding.
Ask for forgiveness for being so concerned about your own agenda that you may have overlooked beautiful things God placed in your path.
Now that we have spent time in prayer, it is time to do a massive brain dump.
I do brain dumps ALL THE TIME. It keeps my brain clear and my head in the game as a mom.
If you have never done a brain dump, sit down with these printables and write everything that is in your head.
If it comes up, write it down.
Do not worry about order or category, just write.
Once you feel like your brain is clear, spend some time numbering your brain dump according to a category.
For example, you may use the #1 for homemaking tasks, #2 for work-related tasks, #3 for kid-related activities or tasks, etc.
Now, organize that brain dump by category.
I created these printables just for you to download and use.
Divide Big Projects into Steps
Some of the items on the brain dump will need to be broken into smaller steps.
I get overwhelmed by a big task and am not sure where to begin.
Once I sit down and write the steps down, I am able to move forward with the project.
There is a section on the printable for you to break down a big project.
How to Tame the To-Do List as a Busy Mom
This year I am reading a book a week.
One of my most recent reads was Taming the To-Do List by Glynnis Whitwer.
There are so many lessons I learned from this book. Let’s start at the beginning.
“Busy work is the thief of our best work.”
To sum it all up, I cannot do it all. And when I try to do it all, I am robbing the people I love the most of my best.
Realizing that I cannot do it all has been so freeing for me as a mom.
It has caused me to find ways to truly do the things that matter, especially when my kids are awake.
This means that there are seasons that I delegate and have someone come and clean the house.
It means that I use a meal delivery service to help with dinners.
It means that I have my groceries delivered.
Finally, our latest endeavor is having an Au Pair come and live with us.
I used to be embarrassed by the fact that I needed help, but now I look at it as a way to delegate what truly matters.
How to Start Delegating??
The first thing to do is ask “what can I only do?”
For me, I am want to be the one that teaches their homeschool, that is home with them every day, and be available to play.
I have learned to delegate certain tasks so that I can say yes to bike rides, soccer games, throwing the football, and playing Guess Who.
When I was trying to do everything on my own, I was frazzled, frantic, and stressed.
By learning how to delegate, I can say yes to what truly matters.
In this season of life for our family of 7, this does mean that we are spending money to have help. Dustin and I are both ok with this because we feel like we are able to focus on our marriage and our parenting when we have help.
I know that everyone is not capable of hiring help, but take the time to brainstorm ways you can delegate with a neighbor, a friend, or a grandparent.
The Power of Psalm 91
In Taming the To-Do List, I was challenged to write out Psalm 91 by inserting my own name.
Some of my favorite lines:
Being Busy Stunts Our Growth
I never realized before how much being overbusy stunted my own growth.
“Being overbusy reduces us to maintenance mode rather than growth mode.”
This makes complete sense. I was constantly in maintenance mode when I was trying to balance 20 plates at once.
By admitting that I cannot do it all, I can now move forward and grow as a Christian, a wife, and a mom.
When there are times in my life when I feel like I am not growing in my faith, I stop and ask myself if I am being too busy.
Being Busy Can Be a Heart Issue
When we are busy, our heart is seeking something only God can provide.
Now do not get me wrong, being a mom means we will be busy. Yes, there will be homes to clean, diapers to change, baths to give, dinners to cook, and practices to get kids to and from.
However, we cannot be too busy that we miss out on the peace that only God can provide.
There have been times in my life when I filled my days to the brim so that I did not have to address issues that were happening in my life.
I have hidden behind my “busy” so that I did not have to face the real issues.
This is when being busy becomes a heart issue.
But it does not have to be. When I learned how to delegate, choose what truly matters, and realized that being busy was a heart issue for me, I started to really grow as a Christian and a mom.
“and what a relief it is to admit my humanity. When I accept that I am imperfect but able to learn and grow, I’m not threatened by a mistake. It’s just a speed bump on my journey of improving, not a dead end. I don’t need to detour around a challenge either; rather, I can welcome it as an opportunity to learn.”
I highly recommend you read Taming the To-Do List.
I learned so much about my own priorities and how I can find peace in my daily life as a mom.
Next, grab the FREE printables to help you get started.
This is the exact method I used to find peace in my crazy busy world.
Finally, spend time in God’s Word. Write down Psalm 91 and repeat it daily until it soaks in as a constant reminder of God’s peace .