It is not easy, but it can be done.
I did it. And I cannot believe I did not do it earlier.
What am I talking about?
THE POWER OF CLEARING YOUR SCHEDULE
Let me share a little story with you.
There once was a mom of five little kids who thought she could do it all. Wait, she did not just think she could do it all. She actually did do it all.
Her friends told her she needed help.
Her husband told her she needed to slow down.
But she just shook her head and said that she was doing just fine. And she really thought she was. So it was off to swimming and gymnastics and soccer and the grocery store and tutoring and baseball all while homeschooling and nursing a baby…Until, one day, she literally could not get out of bed.
She forgot the meaning of life.
She lost the beauty in caring for her children.
She stopped cherishing the things that really mattered to her.
That is part of my story. A part of my story that is sometimes painful to look back at.
Yet, a part of my story that has forever changed my life.
So what did I do?
I was forced to clear my schedule.
The kids finished out what they were involved in at the time, and we did not sign up for any activity or sport that fall. We took a break. We stopped going a hundred miles an hour. We started to ENJOY life.
Now you may not need such drastic of a change, but our family did.
Do you feel like you are running around and at the end of the day not really sure what you have to show for it?
Have you left no room for margin or rest in your life?
When I took a break from filling my calendar, I learned to live again. I learned to LOVE life again.
I cherished quiet, stolen moments with my children.
We had picnics in the backyard for dinner.
We laughed as we held family dance parties in the living room.
These are things I LOVED, but I had let life get in the way of me enjoying them.
Maybe you feel like you have let your calendar become the boss of your life.
Let me help you simplify it a little bit.
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It was from her guidance and course that I learned AND started to apply these four questions to help me clear my schedule.
Next time, before you say YES to anything, answer these four simple questions:
Is this activity or commitment in line with my priorities or goals for this year?
This first question really allows me to decide if this is going to move me closer or further away from what I am trying to acheive. This will be different at various stages in our lives. Right now, for me, I am focused on rest and peace.
Does this new commitment make me excited or am I completely looking forward to it?
This second question allows me to see if I am doing this for myself or just for appearance. Is this something that I truly want to do or am I doing it out of obligation. While there will be times in life that we do things out of obligation, there are also times where it is perfectly fine to take some time for yourself.
Do I have the time and energy to commit to this and still maintain a restful pace of life?
I like to think of what the commitment will cost me. In other words, if I say yes to this commitment, I need to think of what I will be saying no to as well. A lot of times by saying yes to a commitment, it might draw me away from my husband and children too often or too much.
Is my husband fully on board with me saying yes?
This is key. In marriage, it is essential to include each other in making decisions. Especially ones that affect your time together.
I find that when my husband and I make decisions together, we connect more throughout the day. We have included each other in making big decisions.
I finally drew the line and started saying no.
Yet, I had criteria to fall back on. I knew why I was saying no. I knew what it would allow me to say yes to as well.
Then, I started to heal and enjoy life and find meaning again.
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