Has homeschooling ever seemed like a burden?
When homeschool becomes a burden, it makes everything so much more difficult, and I have been here one too many times.
And each time, I wonder, how did I get here again. How did our homeschool become a burden?
You see homeschooling is the thing one of the many things I love about my family.
I love the values we learn, the time we spend together, the lessons we learn side by side.
Homeschooling is such a joy.
But there are hard days. There are tiring days. There are days where I wonder if I am getting anywhere.
There are days that I want to pull up the covers, hide, and pretend I am invisible (it doesn’t work!).
There are days when I need someone to give me a hug, a smile, and remind me that homeschooling is so worth it!
If you have ever had any of the days mentioned above, let me give you a few tips. This is what to do when homeschool becomes a burden.
#1: Change your mindset.
The mind is so powerful.
Our thoughts need to align with where we want our minds to dwell.
When a negative, discouraging thought enters our mind, we have to stop and bring it captive to Christ.
This is a minute to minute decision for me.
As a mom of 5 who struggles with mental health, I have to guard my thoughts every moment.
When those all consuming thoughts arise that I cannot do this, I am not enough, or I am failing enter, I am ready to attack.
I take these thoughts and turn them around.
I change “I cannot do this” to “God, this is hard for me today. I need your peace, your strength, and your energy to guide me.”
I change “I am not enough” to “I am a daughter of the One True King who is equipped with the Holy Spirit. I am enough.”
I change “I am failing” to “This is not my home. This side of heaven I will make mistakes. And it is God’s grace that will hold me up today.”
And then I move on. I change the thought, and I continue with what needs to be done.
#2: Simplify your lessons.
For those hard days, take a few things off of the agenda.
Keep the basics and take out the fluff.
Write down those extra activities or lessons you are taking out, and go back to them on a cold, snowy day.
There will be time to complete those activities if you really want to.
But you might find that it is ok to skip them altogether, and that is just FINE.
#3: Ask your kids one thing they want to learn.
When I find that I am discouraged, it is often because my children are discouraged.
This is a very good time to boost both your mood and your children’s mood.
Find something your child is interested in.
Then, have a day that you spend learning about that subject.
My oldest son loves History and World War II.
One week when we were both struggling, we took an afternoon together and played Risk, read through his plethora of World War II books, and just talked about different leaders and countries involved in the War.
It was a win-win. He was engaged in the material, and I loved seeing his enthusiasm and interest.
It was contagious!
#4: Reset your day with a plan B.
A Plan B is always a good idea.
For homeschooling moms, it is a necessity.
There will be sick days, overwhelming days, obstacles, life events that come up, friends that need help.
By having a plan B, we do not have to fear the disruptions.
We know that there is a plan in place that we can fall back onto when needed.
Ideas for your Plan B:
Historical Movie Day.
Get out of the house and go on a field trip.
The plan B is taking a break from everyday schoolwork and doing something fun and educational.
#5: Be encouraged.
Talk to a friend who homeschools.
If that is not possible, grab a cup of coffee and read one of Julie Bogart’s devotionals.
This book has given me such comfort. It has reminded me how important the job of homeschooling is, that I can do this, and most importantly, to keep fighting the good fight.
Here are some of Julie’s books:
I pray that this will be a blessing to you and your homeschool.
May you find hope on those difficult days.
May you find joy on those hard days.
May you continue to fight the good fight and homeschool your kids in a loving environment.