Fear is a paralyzing emotion.
It has often surrounded me on every side.
It has made me sit on the sidelines one too many times.
Fear will always be a part of life so it is time we learn what we do with this crippling emotion.
I asked Christina Wirch from Inspire Authentic Moms to share with us how to overcome fear in motherhood.
Here is her story and advice:
I’m a worrier by nature.
When I was a kid, I worried about whether the other children at school liked me.
As a young adult, I worried about boys, school, and finances.
Now as a mom to two boys, I worry even more.
Will my boys commit their lives to Christ?
Will they make the right choices when out with their friends?
It’s my son’s first time at camp, will he be ok?
Fear is the parent of worry. This determined combination can hold a tight grip on us.
How do we prevent fear and anxiety from overtaking us?
FEAR IS A PARALYZING EMOTION.
IT KEEPS US FROM DOING, GOING,
REACHING OUT, MOVING FORWARD.
To a certain extent, fear can be good. It helps to keep us safe.
The important thing is to keep fear in its place and not let it rule our days.
It’s when we let fear keep our kids and us from enjoying life that it becomes a problem.
Consider what you or your children may have missed as a result of giving in to the fear.
Are they missing out on fun experiences because you are worried about the what ifs?
When you feel yourself being gripped by fear, remember that God has a plan for your kids.
God created each of our children with a unique purpose, gifts, and talents.
One of the most important roles of a mom is to start out by giving our children to God and then praying earnestly and intentionally for them.
We need to understand that apart from God, and His intervention and grace, no recipe is ever going to be perfect enough to ensure our children’s insulation from a harsh world.
In times when fear grips my heart, I remind myself of this verse:
For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11
If we partner with God and seek His guidance while parenting, we discover the freedom and joy that comes from living the life God created us to live – regardless of where that may take us.
God loves our kids and us. We need to place our trust in Him instead of drowning in fear.
There’s freedom in realizing the world is not our shoulders, Mom.
FEAR IS ISOLATING.
IT KEEPS US FROM BUILDING COMMUNITY.
FEAR STEALS OUR JOY.
If you think back to a time you were gripped by the fear of something happening to your kids, the word joy is probably nowhere to be found.
You were filled with worry, stress, and anxiety. Fear stops us from letting our children try new experiences, from spreading their wings and it may inhibit their friendships.
We need to evaluate what we are worried about.
What is the likelihood of it occurring? What is the worst that could happen if the fear did come true?
Often by speaking our fear out loud, it helps to diminish its power over us.
Stop and give this fear to God. Let Him carry this burden for you.
Can you remember a time you pushed past the fear? That memory is probably full of joy and fun with your kids.
By evaluating the fear, praying about it and letting God carry it for us, we can move forward and allow our kids to spread their wings.
HOW DO I GET RID OF WORRY AND FEAR?
Most of all, remember you are not alone in this.
God loves and cares for our children too. He is watching over them, guiding them and shaping them into the adults they will become. We need to pray and release our burdens to Him.
Once we have done so, we need to let go and trust that God will take care of our kids.
By building and maintaining a relationship with God through daily prayer, devotionals and worship we can grow our trust in God. Reach out to other moms, let them encourage and pray for you.
5 Scriptures to Pray When You are Worried:
“Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life? Matthew 6:25-34
Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight. Proverbs 3:5-6
And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. Romans 8:28
Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Phil. 4:6 & 7
He tends his flock like a shepherd; He gathers the lambs in His arms and carries them close to His heart; He gently leads those that have young. Isaiah 40:10-12
If you struggle with fear, take a quick look at this beautiful prayer by Rachel Wojo.
And let me know: What is your favorite scripture to pray when worried?
Thank you, Christina for this beautiful advice on Overcoming Fear in Motherhood.
Want to see more from Christina?
Check here out at Inspire Authentic Moms.